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Apr 23, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

EXCELLENT interview. Not only about the industry (I’m originally from North Carolina, so can appreciate what it must be like to have a shop like this in her particular environment), but the connections to sex ed, the Dobbs ruling, etc. Really appreciate this! Thanks

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This was so incredible. That connection between Dobbs and people’s sex lives is such an interesting one. But this whole thing had me riveted!

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Dobbs will have a *very* long entry in the history of the empire’s spiral. I admire her perseverence in the center of the blast zone.

The stretch about margins is some of the most practical advice I’ve seen online since Eternal Summer started. It’s the kind of personal finance advice high schools should start teaching, once we’ve finished eradicating sex.

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"Personally, I think it’s worth asking the people pushing this agenda, what’s happened in your life that you’re afraid to feel pleasure and so quick to deny it to others?" YES, Tami! And YES, Michael for this interview. Loved it. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 Thank you both for doing what you do. 🔥🔥🔥

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Apr 25, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

The best part is where Tami repurposes ball bearings as ben wah balls.

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Apr 25, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

Tami Rose is a keeper on several levels. I’d like to see a Dolly Parton movie based on this essay

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Great interview. I guess Tami doesn’t know about the contraception app. Natural Cycles works.

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Apr 24, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

I grew up in Mississippi so I can attest to the lack of sex stores. We didn’t even have (legal) liquor stores until the 60s. In the 70s, I just ordered toys and condoms from mail order. Talk about difficulty ordering by mail and then never knowing when the post person would deliver it.

I really dislike the current two party system, The Liberals and The Trumpers. I have almost always self identified as Libertarian but that’s never been an option in voting. At the moment, you are either Correct in thinking like the Democrats or an f’ing loon. Since there’s not a nickels worthof difference between politicians of the Democratic or Republican Party, I guess I’ll continue to not worry either way. Anyway, the TV stations, printers, newspapers, and now Google, are the ones that get rich from politics. Ok, cranky old man mode off.

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To the extent you can investigate the connection between Dobbs and the SCOTUS and the “War on Sex” in future Smutty pieces, I think you’d be doing a great public service. In particular for the more repressed among us. Great interview.

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Apr 24, 2023·edited Apr 24, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

This world needs more Tami's! She's so wise and considered and expansive in her thinking. Of course people are exploring more anal sex. I hadn't thought about that - but of course they are!

And normal retail can be incomprehensively challenging. I worked at a supermarket for 8 years while studying, so I was young. And STILL bizarre shit happened (like someone throwing a yogurt at my head, for example). I imagine it's even more intense when you're dealing with sex and people's feelings/hang ups around it too.

In summary, I love Tami. The end.

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Apr 24, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

Tami is so wise in connecting Dobbs to concepts beyond pregnancy. People tend to follow their “team” as she wisely asserts and never get to discuss the real impact of topics. Now, Ana sex became trendy and men are realizing their wives/girlfriends may not be as willing to seek pleasure as they should. What America needs is learn how to find pleasure, because as she - again - said: sex is part of life.

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Apr 23, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

She's my hero

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Apr 23, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

Tami is a legend! This was such a fun, interesting read. I'm really glad there was some conversation about abortion laws/politics and their connection to individual sex lives. It reminded me of when Trump was elected, so many women were triggered by a sex offender leading our country that they stopped having sex with their male partners. The political is personal! Awesome interview.

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Fascinating read! I always suspected the conservative didn’t realize how much Dobbs probably changed their lives. Assuming they have sex. I have my doubts ;)

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Apr 23, 2023Liked by Michael Estrin

Great article and Tami sounds like a fantastic person! It is truly sad that sex education is lacking.

I am Canadian. We learned how to roll condoms on bananas and all the things that can get you pregnant, but nothing really about pleasure.

Our bodies were given these abilities to reach amazing heights... why would we be designed this way, if not to enjoy ourselves?

My husband and I are very open about our desires; it took us a while.

I have also told my sons they can ask me anything and although there have been some moments that made me squeamish, I am glad I established that open door policy on relationships and sex. Not literally an open door! Ewww. Lol.

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A very engaging interview... and Tami is a wise woman.

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